Yes you're single, and it's your fault
Well, you read the topic of the blog right. You're single, without a
boyfriend or a fiancé and it's solely your shortcoming. Nobody's to be
blamed. Whether you're a guy or a woman single and searching or you've
conditioned your mind to think that being single is the best life you
can have at 30+, well you need a paradigm shift.
Whether
you're straight, bisexual or gay you need a partner. As the popular
saying goes, a man without a need for companionship is either a beast or
perhaps God. We are made to need each other. It's in our genes, our
nature!
In physics, positive
attracts negative but in human psychology the opposite is found to be
true, like often attracts like. A sad man will often attracts a sad
woman and vice-versa. This explains why most are single, they want the
best man, the 6ft, 6 pacs man earning a 6 figure salary man while they
themselves are nowhere near what any man dreams of.
In light of this, i decide to look at the popular reasons why people are single and what could be done.
- You don't go out
One
reason why many are still single is due to the fact they don't go out.
Trust me,the man of your dreams is out there and won't come to your
bedroom in search of you. Go out, see the world not only is it good for
you, you may likely meet the man of your dreams in the process. You will
likely meet the type of man you want based on where you visit often, a
tourist may likely meet other tourists in his trips, a man on missionary
trips will probably see more religious women i his journeys. In short,
where you visit most have a bearing on the type of people you meet.
Don't expect to find a virgin in strip club 😂
2.) You're still in fantasy land
We
all have a fantasy land. A man we dream of, 6 pacs 6ft earning 6
figures in dollars but we often don't see the perfect man or woman we
hope for. Sometimes we should be ready to settle for less.
3.) You expect too much
Many
men or women expect too much from the opposite sex. Especially women,
it's often as if women think man should be the provider of everything
even when they are just courting. A lady in the university expects her
boyfriend to buy her food, clothes, creams, jewelries and so on.
Seriously, is he your parent? Things like this can chase a man away from
you. Learn to be independent and you will command a mans respect.
4.) Are you the kind every man wants?
Before
you start thinking about Mr Perfect, you should ask yourself if you're
what many men out there wants. It's competitive out there and men just
like women wants the best. Whether you're a man or women you should
question yourself if you're the type of man or woman you can marry, if
not, you should aspire to be someone better.
5.) Self Improve
Whether
you're single or not, you must aspire to be a better version of who
your are yesterday. Every creature on earth should try to get better,
improve! Good characters is a magnet that can seduce any man. It's a
magnet and that's that's why character development and other self
improvement are areas we need to focus our energies on. Self esteem,
sense of humor, good character goes a long way in attracting spouses.
6.) Religious Barriers
Like
activation energy fences preventing reactions from occurring, so is
religious barriers building walls between peoples, killing the
chemistry that could have taken place. Many relationships have ended , many
can't even dream of love thanks to differences in religions. I wonder if
what should keep us together is not the one thing setting people apart?
Even among Muslims(same religion) , Ahmadiyahs don't want to be engaged
to NASFATs, and so on. In Christendom , Jehovah Witnesses won't give
their daughters for a Catholic member and vice-versa (I kept the
examples few to save our time) . This begs the question, 'is religion
uniting people or separating them'?
Singles should see beyond
religion and go with their heart. Marrying your pastor doesn't
guarantee eternal bliss while marrying an imam of your congregation
doesn't mean anything in love. Let's go with the heart.
Focus on these key areas and you'll land your dream man or woman like i have landed mine 😂. Happy relationship in advance
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Written by Cynthia Aniston
Written by Cynthia Aniston
Posted by Unknown on Sunday, 20 March 2016
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